The first mock trail of David Jones resulted in David Jones being innocent. This is mostly not because no means yes, even though she did say no, she did not assert herself. Also the story of the torn shirt was not reliable, she said that it was torn as she left and she said it was torn as he grabbed her. The word no does mean no, but people use the word no playfully sometimes and sometimes to express surprise or disbelief. If someone said that they are coming out with some new futuristic electronic device I would probably say “No Way” or NOOO. But those just mean really tell me about it. Also if someone says no and then keeps kissing the person and then keeps laughing and keeps saying no, I do not believe that, that way of saying no truly does saying no. if a woman does not want to have sex with their boyfriend, but still wants to kiss them then instead of saying no and keep kissing him, clarify and say “no I don’t want to have sex with you.” Saying no simply does not cut it in certain situations. If you mean no show that you mean no. If you say no but you keep on going with the touching and the kissing your body language is not saying no. Also saying stop would have helped and saying forcefully. In the cases against Notre Dame I believe that the schools should be more swift with their investigations into rape cases whether they are false accusations or not action should have been taken.
Monday, March 19, 2012
Sexual Harrasment: Does no mean yes.
The first mock trail of David Jones resulted in David Jones being innocent. This is mostly not because no means yes, even though she did say no, she did not assert herself. Also the story of the torn shirt was not reliable, she said that it was torn as she left and she said it was torn as he grabbed her. The word no does mean no, but people use the word no playfully sometimes and sometimes to express surprise or disbelief. If someone said that they are coming out with some new futuristic electronic device I would probably say “No Way” or NOOO. But those just mean really tell me about it. Also if someone says no and then keeps kissing the person and then keeps laughing and keeps saying no, I do not believe that, that way of saying no truly does saying no. if a woman does not want to have sex with their boyfriend, but still wants to kiss them then instead of saying no and keep kissing him, clarify and say “no I don’t want to have sex with you.” Saying no simply does not cut it in certain situations. If you mean no show that you mean no. If you say no but you keep on going with the touching and the kissing your body language is not saying no. Also saying stop would have helped and saying forcefully. In the cases against Notre Dame I believe that the schools should be more swift with their investigations into rape cases whether they are false accusations or not action should have been taken.
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Why can't someone say no to sex but still want to keep kissing? Shouldn't they be allowed to do that without worrying about being raped?
ReplyDeleteyes, but tying this to the mock case didn't she just say no, but did not clarify as to what she was saying no to. "no" and then continuing to kiss is not a No because it is not saying no to any particular thing; "No, I do not want to have sex with you." is a clearer assertion explaining the intentions.
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